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A Day in the Life

Attending a Munch or Social

Oh my God, I can't believe I am going to do this... am I crazy??

What if I run into someone I know? Am I really going to go to this munch (social) and meet these kinky people?

I will be all alone. What if they're weird? What do I wear? What do say? What if I don't like it?

Ok well it's at Jay's dinner, how bad can that be?

They said it's usually the third Sunday of each month at Jay's and always at 2 p.m.

The socials are usually the first Wednesday of each month at Barnard's rossing at 7 p.m.

They said no kinky/fetish wear... ok I'll wear dress slacks and a sweater that should work.

I want to get there just a tad early so I can meet the munch coordinator. What was her name again? Oh yeah karra, ok got it.

I shower, I dress, and I get into my car and head out.

Still nervous, but also a bit excited.

I tell her I am looking for the group that meets here once a month. The waitress grabs a menu and I follow her to a private room off toward the back. Good, I think to myself, at least we are somewhat tucked away from the vanilla patrons.

There are several people seated at the tables, most have on jeans and shirts or sweaters good, I am not over-dressed.

A couple of folks have discreet choker-type collars on, but nothing that screams kinky.

Some look a bit nervous (and I later learn they are new too).

Some are talking and smiling and sharing information with others.

Here comes a couple that seems to know almost everyone, Oh someone said they are board members. Well, they look normal enough.

The talk hits here and there (pun intended) on BDSM practices, but nothing too in depth.

Someone just shared with the group a snippet of the last scene they did in private.

The waitress comes in to take orders. The two people over there are talking to those board members about the RKS fees and policies. I heard them say there are handouts we will get if we are interested and want to know more.

Wow people are also carrying on regular everyday conversations too... and not a chain or whip in sight.

That guy there who's a member is telling someone he can come as a guest to check the group out and if he needs someone to vouch for him, this guy said he would... cool.

Someone sits down next to me and introduces herself, saying she sees I am a bit nervous and also somewhat shy. She says she has been with the RKS for a number of years now, a single submissive, just like me. She says feel free to ask me anything you wish, and if I don't know the answer, I will find out for you. How nice everyone is.

The conversation goes on after the food is delivered. Sometimes the entire group is listening to one person; sometimes there are multiple conversations taking place at once.

All of it is enjoyable and I didn't see anyone I knew. I ask a member that very question and he put me at ease saying... Think about it. If you re here and they are too, you are both here for the same reason, so no one is going to run off and say they saw you here, because they don't ant you to say anything to your mutual acquaintances either.

You know, I never thought of that.

So the afternoon ends and I got the email address of one of the board members, I think I may look into attending a party. They assured me I can watch. I need not participate. I think I might like that.

So I drive home smiling, knowing that this was a lot less traumatic than in my mind I had made it out to be.

Everyone was so friendly and warm; it was a fun afternoon.

And I smile knowing I have taken the first step into a journey I think I am going to enjoy~

The End